Monday, July 29, 2013

One day

If you had one day, one single day on this beautiful planet what would you do? How would you spend those moments?

Would you dig into a slice of fresh apricot tart? Taste the care and love someone put into it? The blend of sweetness and acidity, an alternate form of sunshine?

Get outdoors for a walk, or maybe a bike ride? Look up at the blue sky and wonder that it's not a solid thing and not even blue yet without it, we would not be able to live here?

Reflect on contradictions, things that are messy and imperfect, such as friendships and chain rings? And the concept of good enough? So utterly functional and enabling you can't imagine life without them?

In the last four-and-a-half years, there have been plenty of losses. Since leaving work, way too much time to reflect on them.

People who help survivors of TBI use the metaphor of earthquake followed by tsunami. There is the physical event that causes the brain injury and often other physical injuries as well. Then the aftermath: social, economic, emotional, psychological. We use the word tsunami to represent an impact too large to quantify. Of scale and scope and duration that is unexpected, way larger than normal. Almost too large to comprehend.

The gains are much less obvious, more elusive. They must be hunted and stalked and lured out of hiding. Bella can demonstrate. Like this morning, at the window with a poor, unfortunate, former bird. We turned her away. No, you can't come in here with that!

Route 66, a journey definitely helps uncover the good stuff, the gifts of this process. It turns out there are so many of them. They're everywhere. One that keeps knocking on the window is, life is finite. Each day is important, a challenge. Pay attention, right here right now. There's nothing else.

Writing, so difficult and helpful. It demands that you organize your thoughts. Can't just zone out - may have to write about this later! No idea it would be so worthwhile. It's great to read and write and have discussions with people. Blog is my co-pilot!

I would spend a few minutes on sharing this:
  • At any point in time, the human beings in your life are worth more than their cognitive functioning. Think about that.
  • There's always potential to function better. Always. We are never done.
  • Each brain injury is individual and unique. Even if you fully recover, expect a tsunami of hardship and loss. Grab something and hang on. Never give up.
  • If you want to recover you have to push yourself. It doesn't just happen.
  • With a (safe) program of physical exercise, you become a powerhouse for your own recovery. This is the single most important thing, besides not having another brain injury. So, do it.
  • Educate yourself! All the latest information and research will help you survive the dismissals and condemnations from the medical establishment. Those folks can't help much. Prepare to ignore what you hear from them.
  • No relationship will be unaffected, not a single one. Surround yourself with people who are wholly, truly supportive. Such people are rare, which is actually OK.
Then I'd go for a ride, and maybe get some lunch ;-)

1 comment :

  1. Beautiful tart photo. Love you from the soul, dear sister.